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With Pen – A Lost Art?

Fountain PenWhile flying to Hilton Head Island for our anniversary, I scoped out the occupants of the seats nearby. You do this too, don’t you? I wonder where they’re going, where they’ve been, and why they’re traveling. Is it business, pleasure, an emergency? Who are these people? I wish everyone wore a sign with a short bio.

A young thirty-something man sat across the aisle from me wearing flip-flops, jeans, and a short-sleeved polo shirt untucked. His wavy black hair touched the bottom of his ear lobes and nape of neck, and his face declared that he preferred the scruffy unshaven look. In his hands he held a worn Zane Grey western. Interesting, I thought. He didn’t seem the type to read a novel of the American Frontier. Is this his favorite book he’s owned for several years only to pick it up again for this trip? Or did he select it at a used book store, or borrow from a friend? I probably read too much into it, but I like observing and besides, it passes the time on a plane (the quicker the trip, the better).

Just so you know, I wasn’t staring at this thirty-something man. After all, my husband of 30 years was sitting right next to me reading his own book, Killing Lincoln. And I was reading my book, Wrecked. Really. But out of the corner of my eye I saw thirty-something pull out a black moleskin journal. The kind you see on display near the check out at Barnes & Noble. He laid down the tray table and then began writing with a beautiful black fountain pen. Seriously. What thirty-something guy in today’s techy world consumed by apps writes with a fountain pen? Who is this guy, preserving a lost art? He must be a writer. He must have “an old soul.”

I wish I was more outgoing with strangers on planes and then I would have talked to him – perhaps received answers to my questions. But I’m not outgoing with strangers, and besides, he looked deep in thought and those thoughts were flowing through the ink onto paper. I respected that and kept quiet. Yet I couldn’t help but notice the juxtaposition of the jet screaming across the sky representing our modern lives and his fountain pen scratching across lined paper representing an older past life. A life that only knew a slower, simpler pace.

In our fast-paced, plugged in world, anytime we take the time to write slowly with pen has got to be good for the soul. Try it. Go buy yourself a nice pen or even better, search out a fountain pen. And write. Write in a journal. Write a note. Write a thank you. Write a check, even! Slow down and unplug from email, Facebook, Twitter, Google. Instead of simply clicking Send or Like, slow down and write someone – with pen. Don’t let this become a lost art.

My heart overflows with a good theme…my tongue is the pen of a ready writer. – Psalm 45:1

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Celebrating 30 Years

Call it unwinding, regrouping, refilling the cup, pushing the pause button. My husband and I celebrated 30 years of marriage at Hilton Head Island, South Carolina recently.

Celebrating 30 Years

Celebrating 30 Years

In a way, it was like buffering – allowing our lives to download and store up before starting to “run” again. We brought no computers which means no email, no Facebook (I don’t own a smartphone), and no writing. It also helped to get away to a place of warmth, greenery, flowers, and water in the month of May. Which for someone who lives in Wyoming, is like a spring in the desert.

Atlantic from the deck

Atlantic from the deck

“I will make springs in the desert, so that my chosen people can be refreshed.” – Isaiah 43:20

The time was an opportunity to spend in quietness and stillness with no agenda. A fitting mode to engage the soul with God.

Magnolia Plantation, Charleston, South Carolina

Magnolia Plantation, Charleston, South Carolina

“I will give you abundant water to quench your thirst and to moisten your parched fields. And I will pour out my Spirit and my blessings on your children. They will thrive like watered grass, like willows on a riverbank.” – Isaiah 44:3-4

Although we were celebrating our anniversary, it felt like a retreat. Jane Rubietta writes in Quiet Places, “The purpose of retreat is not to check off a list of Scriptures read, quotes studied, or prayers said. It is an escape into the calm arms of God.”

Sunset Cruise

Sunset Cruise

“Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” – Mark 6:31

How thrilling to experience new sights, sounds, and smells. Pelicans flying low in formation like F-16′s. Dolphins skimming the coastline at early morning light. Seagulls crying and sailing over sea. Critter Management relocating an alligator off our resort. Honeysuckle and lilacs lining the bike path. The tide. For as long as I live, I will never get over the tide coming in and rolling back out. Crashing waves lolling sleep. Biking on the beach.

Biking on the Beach

Biking on the Beach

Our favorite path

Our favorite path

Biking on Hilton Head Island

Honeysuckle fence lines

“The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places; Indeed, my heritage is beautiful to me.” – Psalm 16:6

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Storms and Heavy Lifting

DSCN3735 (640x480)Storms bring out the best in people. We in Wyoming know this. We just experienced a three-day snow storm. On the fourth day, the wind blew and our driveway became rolling hills of drifts. I remember the first day we drove into the yard to look at this house up on a hill. My husband and I both thought, “Oh boy, a north-facing house, with a down-sloping driveway.” Yes, it has lived up to its expectations. But we have awesome neighbors and friends with tractors.DSCN3741 (640x480) Continue reading

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Practice Makes Perfect

Practice makes perfect. This singsongy cliché played through my head like a monastic chant while practicing the piano as a teenager. Although I never achieved perfection in piano playing, practicing definitely helped. With those who pursue the piano, a life time of practicing distinguishes the players from the professionals.

What about in our spiritual lives? Can practice make perfect? Can we even expect to be perfect? Christ sets up a pretty high standard when distinguishing the pagans from His followers in Matthew 5:43-48:

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and send rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

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You Are What You Do

We’ve all heard the saying, “You are what you eat.” I was curious so I checked out the origin of this phrase at The Phrase Finder and this is what I found:

This phrase has come to us via quite a tortuous route. Anthelme Brillat-Savarin wrote, in Physiologie du Gout, ou Meditations de Gastronomie Transcendante, 1826:

“Dis-moi ce que tu manges, je te dirai ce que tu es.” [Tell me what you eat and I will tell you what you are].

In an essay titled Concerning Spiritualism and Materialism, 1863/4, Ludwig Andreas Feuerbach wrote:

“Der Mensch ist, was er ißt.”

That translates into English as ‘man is what he eats’.

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Favorite Book as a Child?

What was your favorite book as a child? Did it influence the person you are now? Being a horse-crazy little girl with pony-tail braids, I checked out every horse book the library owned. If you could locate the library’s checkout card for this book, I’m sure my name would be penciled in elementary-age handwriting over and over again.Little Black Continue reading

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A Day to Love Him

It was an evening in winter and the sanctuary’s lights were low. Several of my youth group sat in pews coming to the realization that they needed a Savior. Then I went forward, taking the hand of a friend, and knelt on the burgundy carpet where for 12 years I had taken a meaningless communion. I will never forget the love that flooded through me as I accepted the gift of the Son who gave His life. “For God so loved the world, that He gave….” That feeling of love stayed with me for several weeks. I couldn’t get enough of talking with Him or reading His Word. It was simply all about Him. Continue reading

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Bitter or Better?

The Worst Hard Time. No, it’s not about an event in my life. It’s not about the experience of helping a college student with living arrangements last fall. It’s not about my dogs getting sprayed by a skunk a few days ago while having 15 guests in our home. I have absolutely no events in my life to compare it to. It’s the title of a book I’m reading, and I believe it should be required reading for American high school students – perhaps every American between the ages 15-70. The book is about the Great American Dust Bowl during the years of 1931-1939.  WorstHardTimeWe think we have hard times right now and have gotten pretty good at complaining, but try and top these:

  • Eight years of drought
  • Dust storms that cause the street lights to go on at noon day
  • Dust storms that last for 24 hours and so black you can’t see your hand in front of your face
  • Dust pneumonia killing your babies and children
  • Clubbing thousands of rabbits with a bat because they’re eating your survival food
  • Sweeping up buckets of centipedes in your home
  • Scooping up buckets of dirt in your home
  • Government buying your starving cattle, hiring a cowboy to herd them into a pit and then shoot them with a rifle
  • Static electricity so bad it shorts out your car
  • So hungry you eat the Russian thistle weed, which you canned earlier
  • Splitting up your family just to survive
  • Bartering for goods and services because you have no money
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Law vs Freedom

Craziness. It’s my new word lately and it perfectly describes the car accident I had yesterday. It was so surreal I was looking for the movie cameras.

I left Walmart and was third in line at the stoplight. While waiting, the car in front of me hit the first car in line. Then, for reasons only known to the teenage boy driving the car, he put the car in reverse and rammed my car (it’s a little hurt, but I’m fine). That’s when the movie set unfolded. The teenage driver with two of his friends drove up on the curb, jumped a cement culvert, and took off across a snow-filled ditch. The woman in front jumped out of her car, shook her fist at the run-away car, and shouted words I can only imagine. The run-away car then became stuck in the snow and two boys and one girl jumped out and started running. Some observers driving down the street stopped their car and jumped out chasing the run-aways (I’m calling 911 by now). The two boys cleared a nearby fence but the girl didn’t even try. Eventually, the boys were snatched by the helpful citizens and professional help showed up. Seven police cars, two firetrucks, and one ambulance later it was quite the spectacle on the corner of Dell Range and Walmart – the busiest intersection in Cheyenne. Continue reading

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India – Back Home

Advertisement in Bangalore Airport

Advertisement in Bangalore Airport

Off the plane and home. There’s no place like it. This Kansas-bred girl thought it strange when we arrived at the Bangalore airport and walked into the large open room for customs, there greeting us was an advertisement with Dorothy and her friends from Oz. I couldn’t help but think, there’s no place like home, there’s no place like home. Alice and Subash with their Indian hospitality made it feel like home in so many ways the 10 days we were there. But still, there’s no place like your own bed and your own home. Continue reading

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